CCU CLASS : CCU Second Meeting

Cross Cultural Understanding Class

Third Meeting

Tuesday,October 06^th 2009

PERSONAL VALUES

Dalam pertemuan ini, dibahas bahwa antara kebudayaan dalam suatu Negara berbeda dengan Negara yang lainnya. For example ; John dan mazen yang berasal dari dua Negara berbeda yakni Amerika serikat dan Arab Saudi. The differences are ;

American

1. Brings his/her favorite Drink or Food when someone invites him or her.

2. To be polite, they use to shake their hands with the new people.

3. Drink wine is fine for American or british.

4. In America it's well-known a word called BYOB = bring your own booze.

Saudi Arabian

1. Prepare so many foods when they invite someone.

2. Put his arm on someone's shoulder to be polite.

3. They never try to drink wine,because it's forbidden in their culture.

Additional information ;

- Something polite in a culture,maybe it will be impolite in another culture.

- All cultures tell to be a good people but with different ways.

The answers of The Questions of the Materials.

1. No 6. No 11. No

2. No 7. Yes 12. No

3. No 8. Yes 13. Yes

4. Yes 9. Yes

5. No 10. No

The Accesments of Politeness Between Indonesian,American and British.

Here are some questions.

1. How Far do you stand while talking with Your Friend?

2. How much eye contact with his / her?

3. How comfortable are you when your friend touches your shoulder?

4. Do You usually directly to the point? Beat around the bush ?

Indonesian British American

3 – 5 feet 2 – 3 feet 2 – 3 feet

Less Much Much

Respect the speakers respect the speakers respect the speakers

Uncomfortable Comfortable Comfortable

No direct to point Direct to Point Direct to Point

Additional Information :

1. Hugging / berpelukan in British and American is only for Family relatives and best friends.

2. Shaking hands is a way to be more polite but only for Family Relatives and Best Friends.

TWO KINDS OF COMMUNICATION

1. Direct Communication

- Say What you mean.

- Silence is uncomfortable.

2. Indirect Communication

- Imply what you mean / make so much opening and after that to point.

- Silence is expected.

FAMILY VALUES

Adalah bagaimana seorang menilai arti sebuah keluarga.

Here are some questions.

1. How many single parents in Indonesia ?

2. How many meetings in a Family ?

3. How far the one makes the meaning of a home ?

4. How far the one respects the meaning of Wedlock / wedding lock ?

CCU CLASS : CCU First Meeting

Cross Cultural Understanding Class

Third Meeting

Tuesday,October 06^th 2009

PERSONAL VALUES

Dalam pertemuan ini, dibahas bahwa antara kebudayaan dalam suatu Negara berbeda dengan Negara yang lainnya. For example ; John dan mazen yang berasal dari dua Negara berbeda yakni Amerika serikat dan Arab Saudi. The differences are ;

American

1. Brings his/her favorite Drink or Food when someone invites him or her.

2. To be polite, they use to shake their hands with the new people.

3. Drink wine is fine for American or british.

4. In America it's well-known a word called BYOB = bring your own booze.

Saudi Arabian

1. Prepare so many foods when they invite someone.

2. Put his arm on someone's shoulder to be polite.

3. They never try to drink wine,because it's forbidden in their culture.

Additional information ;

- Something polite in a culture,maybe it will be impolite in another culture.

- All cultures tell to be a good people but with different ways.

The answers of The Questions of the Materials.

1. No 6. No 11. No

2. No 7. Yes 12. No

3. No 8. Yes 13. Yes

4. Yes 9. Yes

5. No 10. No

The Accesments of Politeness Between Indonesian,American and British.

Here are some questions.

1. How Far do you stand while talking with Your Friend?

2. How much eye contact with his / her?

3. How comfortable are you when your friend touches your shoulder?

4. Do You usually directly to the point? Beat around the bush ?

Indonesian British American

3 – 5 feet 2 – 3 feet 2 – 3 feet

Less Much Much

Respect the speakers respect the speakers respect the speakers

Uncomfortable Comfortable Comfortable

No direct to point Direct to Point Direct to Point

Additional Information :

1. Hugging / berpelukan in British and American is only for Family relatives and best friends.

2. Shaking hands is a way to be more polite but only for Family Relatives and Best Friends.

TWO KINDS OF COMMUNICATION

1. Direct Communication

- Say What you mean.

- Silence is uncomfortable.

2. Indirect Communication

- Imply what you mean / make so much opening and after that to point.

- Silence is expected.

FAMILY VALUES

Adalah bagaimana seorang menilai arti sebuah keluarga.

Here are some questions.

1. How many single parents in Indonesia ?

2. How many meetings in a Family ?

3. How far the one makes the meaning of a home ?

4. How far the one respects the meaning of Wedlock / wedding lock ?

CCU CLASS : Socializing

University students socialize by going out to the local pub for a beer and to watch soccer and make lots of noise while supporting their teams. Men watch soccer or rugby. Some women enjoy the sport as well.
Some students enjoy just relaxing at the local restaurants while eating sandwiches, drinking tea and other beverages and just chatting with friends.
Discos are a popular hangout on Fridays and Saturdays and now and then different students will throw a party at their home.
Generally all universities have a union (led by students, for the students) where there is somewhere to eat, chill, play pool, a bar etc. All unions have societies/clubs for students to get involved with that range from football clubs to chocolate societies. Its up to you how much you want to get involved.
Drinking is a part of the culture and there is usually a pub on almost every street corner. Excessive public intoxication is not acceptable and the police are strict about that, and just recently in the past few months the British government has banned smoking in pubs and restaurants.
It is generally acceptable and even expected for a man to ask a woman on a date, but times are changing and there are instances where women have felt that the men are too slow and end up asking the men on a date.
A first date is usually a typical outing of dinner and then a movie, the man pays the bill usually.
An unacceptable first date involves being too late to pick up the date or meeting, overly consuming alcohol, and public intoxication.
Foreign students studying in England should make an effort to get involved with the university clubs because that is the best way to get to know the locals and learn about the culture quicker.
Pubs are enormously important social institutions and you can expect to be asked out to the pub at any time of the day and nearly all of them will serve full meals although primarily they are a place to relax and drink beer. They are the key to socialisation; generally being the favoured location for gathering, and therefore are central to becoming involved in the culture and meeting people.

Students : Class Rules

The school year usually begins in September and ends in July. However private schools sometimes develop their own schedules.
University dress codes are casual, personal, individual to all, men & women. Certain schools like Oxford, require students to wear formal garments (suit, robe) when meeting certain staff members, taking examinations etc.
Grades are usually given on an A-F scale. A is the highest and F is a failure.
Most universities have lecture rooms to accommodate the hundreds of students enrolled. A combination of learning forms are also applied depending on the subject such as group work and discussions.
In England and Wales, University degrees are usually awarded in grades of Class, ranging from First Class Honours to Third Class. Anything below Thirds is a fail.

Gift Giving

Gifts are not usually exchanged at a first meeting.
If invited to an English household, it is appropriate to bring flowers (avoid white lilies as they are reserved for funerals), good wine, liquor, or chocolates.
Make sure that gifts are nicely wrapped.

Negotiation

Decisions tend to be made from the top down and can take sometime.
Humor is often used in negotiations, sometimes as a defense mechanism or in the form of self-deprecation and/or irony.
Avoid hard selling and any sort of conflict or confrontation.

Meeting

When doing business direct questions often receive evasive responses.
Arriving on time for a meeting is important.
Business meetings tend to be structured but not too formal, beginning and ending with a bit of small talk.

Tittle And Business Cards

Titles are important and it is best to address people directly by using Mr., Mrs., or Miss, followed by the surname. Note that these are spelled without the . throughout the country.
One should always wait to be invited to use first names before doing so yourself.
Business cards are essential and usually exchanged.

Bussiness : Dress

The English value being well dressed and nicely groomed.
For men: conservative, dark or medium colored suits with shirts and conservative ties. Avoid striped ties.
For women: stylish yet classic business suits or dresses and blouses. Accessories are usually worn.
Jeans and business casual attire is usually not appropriate but this may vary depending on the industry.

Law and Order

The legal drinking age to purhase alcohol at a bar or liquor store is 18. 16/17 year olds may consume beer, wine, porter, cider, or perry with a meal in an eating area on licensed premises if they are in the company of an adult and the adult purchases the alcohol.
Penalties for possession, acquisition, and trafficking of drugs are severe and include mandatory lengthy imprisonment in local jails.
The legal smoking age rose to 18 as of October 2007. Smoking is illegal inside any public enclosed space, including offices, bars and restaurants where you are required to smoke outside the building.

Taboos

Cutting in line or breaking the "queue" is not accepted.
Loud talking and shouting in public is considered bad form.

Gestures

An inverted two-finger "peace sign" or "V for victory sign is an obscenity.
People tend to walk on the left and pass on the right.
Tapping the side of the forehead in the UK means you are stupid, not smart.
When communicating the number "2" with the fingers, it is best to keep the fingers tightly together. Two fingers apart, knuckles outward, means "Up Yours!" and is definaitely rude.
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A half-closed fist waved in a reciprocating lateral motion is a gesture for the expletive "wanker", an abusive term on the same level as "asshole" or "the finger" gesture in the USA.